Twins: how to foster their individuality

Every person is a unique and different being, and it is good to encourage them to have their own personality and individuality, which is why when we talk about twin siblings we must act this way too.

Why foster individuality in twins

There are thousands of clichés about twin siblings, and on many occasions we tend to fall into them, for example: dressing them the same, buying them the same gifts, having them do the same extracurricular activities…

However, it is very important that we take into account their own tastes and consider their own individuality.

Sometimes we tend to do all the activities with both siblings at the same time and to act the same way with both, but for them it is essential to help each one feel different and unique.

That is why we suggest that each one carry out activities that foster their own interests and tastes, independently of their twin, and in this way they likewise socialize with different people.

Tips for raising twins while fostering their individuality

Some tips for raising twin siblings this way would be:

• Let us try to take into account their different personalities
• Encourage their independence, that is, foster their doing activities one without the other and that interest each one
• Call each one by their name and avoid referring to them as the twins
• Have the parents do activities separately with each one

How to manage jealousy between twins

As in any relationship between siblings, it can happen that there is jealousy, and to help in this situation it is important to foster this individuality. This jealousy is often due to wanting to attract their parents' attention and wanting to find their own differentiated place.

What can we do when jealousy appears?

• teach them to respect their turn and teach them to know how to wait
• differentiate their personal belongings, their toys, so that there are fewer conflicts
• have a special space-time with the parents separately

And above all, let us not compare grades or successes or failures; let us value each child separately!

If you want to delve deeper into the topic of jealousy, be sure to read our article