# 8 Buddha quotes that can change your life > Love the people around you and love what you do. With things that aren't worth it, it's best not to linger too long, because if we... - **Author:** mireia-navarro-vera · **Category:** Adultos - **Published:** 2016-06-05 · **Updated:** 2016-06-11 - **URL:** https://elteuespai.com/en/8-buddha-quotes-that-can-change-your-life/ - _Translation pending clinical review._ --- Buddhism is one of the **oldest religions** in existence. For many, more than a religion **it is a philosophy of life**. In fact, you don't need to be a fervent follower to **benefit from its wisdom**; it's enough to read some of its most famous quotes to understand that it can be part of your life and make it easier and perhaps happier, you just need to open your mind to everything it can offer you. ## Where you cannot love, do not linger **Love the people around you and love what you do**. With things that aren't worth it, it's best not to stay too long, because if we're not careful, they can end up becoming part of our life. ## Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional ![buddha quotes that will help you grow psychologically](/images/blog/2016/06/buda-1-300x200.webp)It's not the event itself that is painful, it's the reaction we have to that event, therefore our control over what we feel is greater than we think. **Only what we give importance to can hurt us**; I decide what is going to hurt me and for how long. But this requires learning. The first thing is to know it, then to learn how to do it. If something or someone hurts me, perhaps I can't avoid it, but I can **decide whether I keep that pain and turn it into my suffering, or detach myself from the emotion** and try to see things from another perspective. ## The richest is not the one who has the most, but the one who needs the least It's one of my favorites and **it reminds me a lot of another quote I love: "If you aren't happy with what you have, you'll hardly be happy with what you lack."** **Our desire to have more**, on the material or the emotional level, **is a source of worries and disappointments**. When we learn to live with what we have and enjoy what life offers us, we feel fulfilled. By this I don't mean that we should stop having goals in life or aspirations; the idea is more about appreciating what we have and what life gives us in each moment. **If we live focused on what we lack, we cannot enjoy what we have right now.** ## Choose a person who looks at you as if you might be magic Choose well who is going to live by your side. If that **person makes us feel special and believes in our abilities**, they will make me grow and also believe in myself. On the other hand, **if that person doesn't believe in me, they diminish me. A lie repeated a thousand times can end up becoming a truth.** That's why what we say to our children is so important; if we believe in them and in their abilities and we tell them so, we will make them believe in themselves too. If we say things to them like "But you're so foolish, didn't you see you could fall?" and we repeat it a thousand times, in the end they will believe that they really are foolish and that nothing can go well for them. ## Every place is here and every moment is now It is the foundation of **mindfulness** and it was invented a thousand years ago. **This quote changed my life**; ever since I learned to **live in the here and now**, I have begun **to truly enjoy what I live.** If you look for a moment in your life when you truly enjoyed yourself, you'll surely see **that your mind was neither in the past nor in the future, it was right in the here and now**, that's why you were able to enjoy it. A beer with friends, a board game that has you focused, a paddle tennis match or a good book are just some examples in which your mind situates itself in the present moment and doesn't think about anything else. Fill your day to day with moments like these and you'll notice the change. ## Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intention of throwing it at someone; you are the one who gets burned *How many times have I seen anger and rage in therapy sessions. I have seen them disguised in a thousand different ways but their eyes of fire are unmistakable. They anchor people to the past, they bind them to pain and suffering and leave them without strength, without hope and without breath.* *Anger in itself is not bad, it has its function like all the emotions we possess. The problem is when we don't release it and we keep it in our hand with the intention of taking revenge or of having justice done. That is when it burns us and stops being functional.* ## If it has a solution, why do you cry? If it has no solution, why do you cry? *Life is not flat, there are always curves, ups and downs. I don't know anyone who doesn't have any problem. Not even the smartest, the richest or the happiest. Once again, the problem is not outside, it's in how I react to that problem. If it has a solution, go for it, I'll spend my energy solving it. If it doesn't, my best option is to accept it and integrate it into my life in the best possible way.* *If tomorrow they tell me I'm going to die, I have two options: cry without stopping and despair asking myself a thousand times why me, or accept it and be grateful that, since I have to die, at least I know when and that gives me the option to choose how I live my final days.* ## If you can appreciate the miracle that a single flower holds, your whole life will change *If you preserve that **capacity to marvel at the small things** as when you see them for the first time, I'm sure you'll be able to be happy. The secret is **to learn to value each thing and each person for what they are, a unique and unrepeatable miracle.*** *As children, almost all of us have this capacity; some lose it along the way and become adults who do not see.*